So first off, sorry that I took so long to get this one written. I said on Saturday that I was going to do the follow up on Monday. Well today is Thursday and I’m finally getting it done.
My last post I had said that my friend had said that his sex education class was only for a semester when he was 15 years old. By then he had already experimented with sex with a few other boys and girls his age. It was fun listening to him rattle off the story. Him and a few buddies had gone off on a camping trip when they were 12 or so and though no sexual acts took place they did pull down their pants and compare. Who was the biggest and smallest, who had hair starting to grow. And then when he got his first girlfriend how he had felt up her breasts and slid his hand down her pants. He said had didn’t go any farther than that with a girl until he was 17.
Back then it sounds like the only way you got sex education, or your rocks off as a guy, was by hanging around “that guy” who was always saying he knew how to get the girls and had been with “so many”, though in real life hadn’t been with a single one. Even some of the boys I know around here are probably bragging more than their actual experience as a way to get people to think they are cool and want to hang out with them. I guess there were also catalogs for places like Macy’s, and Sears seems to be a popular when when I ask, and they were looking at the underwear section at the models. That is just a funny thing to even think about.
But now we have entered into the age of the internet, smart phones, and phones with cameras and the instant uploading of pictures. Society has, like the Lord of the Rings, awakened the sleeping dragon, and there is no way to put him back to sleep other than to destroy him.
Today, people are getting their sex education from chat rooms like MenChats, or Chat-Avenue. Personally I don’t find anything wrong with the chat sites in general. But the adult/youth paranoia rains strong in rooms like that. In MenChats the home page says that it is restricted to those who are over the age of 18 only. But that certainly doesn’t stop someone under that age from clicking the button and going into the room and SAYING they are 18. Only if they mess up and say their real age, or a moderator suspects will someone get bounced from the room. In Chat-Avenue there are several different rooms to choose from. There is a boys room where you only have to be 13 to enter and no maximum age, a teen chat for those 13 to 19 (oops I cant go to that one anymore), a gay chat that you have to be 17 to enter, and an adult chat that you have to be 18 to enter. Can you see here that there is really nothing available for both adults and kids?
And believe me I know, and accept the reason why there is not. I’ve gone into MenChats, and the Gay Chat and it is nothing but people who are horny and want to talk about sexual experiences or role play a sexual encounter. Not exactly the place that you would want to go to ask questions about your own sexuality, or get information. If there WAS a chat room available for something like that I would love to be one of the moderators. But so far have not found one like that.
Next up is the free porn sites. There are literally thousands of sites on the internet that are free porn, no log in required, no registration to make sure that you are of age, and download till your hearts content. Just to give you an idea, there is PornHub and XVideos. These are two fairly large websites that contain all sorts of porn: Gay, Bi, Straight, Kinky, you name it. If you are a horny teen, all you have to do it go to the page and have fun. But of course, this is not the best way for someone to get their sexual education.
Then lastly for my examples you have the live cam sites like Chaturbate and Omegle. These sites again you don’t need a log in, there is no verification of age to watch and you can watch someone LIVE. Just for example while I’m writing this I’ve been watching this very cute guy on Chaturbate who has just been talking to the people chatting to him while wearing his boxers. I will say that he is pretty cute.
And then that leads me to the sleeping dragon. Well, the dragon that is no longer sleeping. There was this article on the Huffington Post:
Microsoft Launches Tool to Rid Internet of Child Porn
Though I would love to see that come true, best I can say to that is “good luck with that”. Because here is the big question that needs to be asked: Who are the people that are creating and posting most of the child porn these days? Is anyone answering “the kids themselves”? If not, you should be. And we have given them the tools to do it! Sexting anyone? How many stories have we heard about someone getting in trouble because he or she sent x-rated pics to a friend and it ended up getting spread around. We have given them Skype, we have given them Omegle, and we have given them webcams and phone cameras.
I’m NOT saying that it was the INTENTION of the companies to have under 18 year old people using these services in the way that they are. And the sites are probably doing a pretty good job, as best they can, at keeping it off. But before we gave the kids their webcams, and smart phones, did anyone sit down with them to have a discussion about internet sex? I bet not. This is why in the last article I said that sex education needs to start at an uncomfortably young age. Kids are smart. When they feel the tingle they will go find something to help release it and it isn’t always a good thing. And I don’t think monitoring their web browsing or phone is a good way to do it. That is like trying to put out the fire after the house has burnt to the ground. It’s REactive instead of PROactive.
The younger we start to teach kids about sex and sexuality the more they are going to understand as they grow up. They should then feel more comfortable coming to mom and dad and asking those sticky questions rather than trying to go online to find the answers. Because one thing they probably don’t know is once it is out there on the internet, it is there FOREVER! Let’s try to keep it in the pants rather that spread world wide on the internet.